After your divorce is over, you might spend some time focusing on yourself before jumping back into the dating pool. But when you do find that special someone, what happens when you tie the knot once more? Entering a new marriage after your divorce can be a bit scary, but it isn’t something that you have to fear…
New Marriage: Retying the Knot
Acknowledge your baggage
When we experience stressful or difficult times, it’s not uncommon for them to leave an impact on us. Divorce is, of course, no difference, and many people do experience some form of baggage. Sometimes, you can end up bringing this baggage into your new marriage, which can cause some friction between you and your partner.
Therefore, it’s important to acknowledge your baggage, both by yourself and with your partner. Try to recognize what things from your last marriage make you act or feel a certain way in this one. Then, talk to your partner about it so they can better understand. Doing so can help both you let go of your baggage, and ensure your new marriage can start on the right foot.
Don’t wall yourself off
Another problem you might face in your new marriage is finding it hard to be vulnerable. It’s understandable why you’d feel this way. Opening up to a partner can leave you feeling exposed or “weak”. You might worry that, if your partner sees this side of you, that they’ll judge you for it.
However, it’s important for the both of you to be able to be open with one another. Allowing each of you to see that more vulnerable side will help the both of you further build your trust in one another. The more you’re able to trust each other, the stronger your relationship will be.
Go over expectations
Expectations are a part of any relationship, and your new marriage is no different. Everyone has a certain level of what they expect from a partner, but sometimes divorce can impact these expectations. Therefore, it’s important to talk to your partner about establishing realistic expectations. Figure out which ones you might share, where you differ and why, and you’ll soon find you both will understand each other much better than before.
