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Chronic Illness: Post-Divorce Struggle

Having to deal with both a divorce and a chronic illness can be a hard task. However, there are some ways you can manage a chronic illness post-divorce. Doing so can help get you into a better, more manageable situation... Chronic Illness: Post-Divorce Struggle Visit your doctor The first part of dealing with a chronic illness post-divorce is by visiting your doctor. The trauma of divorce can make it harder to deal with your illness both physically and mentally. Furthermore, it could even make some of the symptoms worse than they were before. Your doctor can figure out how your divorce is impacting your illness, and deliver some trauma-informed care. That means the treatment they give you also considers the trauma you're experiencing. By doing this, they'll be able to help you both with your illness management, and your divorce recovery. Consider working remotely Something else to consider when you have a chronic illness post-divorce is your workload. Adding the stress [...]

By | February 5th, 2020|

Financial Cheating: What Is It?

When most people think of cheating, they assume it's something physical or emotional. However, what about financial cheating? While it might sound odd, it's in fact a potential reason some couples will split. That's why it's important to know what it might look like... Financial Cheating: A Real Concern? Missing money One major sign of financial cheating is missing money. It's not uncommon for couples to share a bank account with each other. That way, they both have easy access to money when they need it. Still, both partners tend to let the other know if they're going to use some of those funds. Things can become concerning when you notice a lot of withdrawals that your spouse never mentioned. When you see this, it's a good idea to ask your spouse what's going on. In the meantime, try to keep your money safe in a separate account that only you have access to. New purchases galore Another sign of financial cheating [...]

By | January 28th, 2020|

Working During Divorce: The Benefits

You begin dealing with much more stress than before when facing divorce. That can make it hard to do others things, which is why working during divorce is difficult for so many. However, there are a few methods you can try that might make it easier for you... Working During Divorce Talk to your boss When working during divorce, it's a good idea to try and talk to your boss or supervisor. You might have to leave early or take some days off to handle divorce-related things, such as court dates. As a result, the amount of work you can get done might slip a bit. Before that happens, it helps to let your boss know what's going on. By doing so, you can work with your boss on a plan that can help you out. This could be lessening your workload for a bit, or ways you can make up missed days. Your don't have to get into specifics when talking to [...]

By | January 25th, 2020|

Unhealthy Coping: Emotional Impact of Divorce

After the kind of loss divorce brings, it makes sense that you'd want to look for ways to cope. However, you have to be careful about just how you cope. In fact, there's a lot of unhealthy coping methods which people end up using. Knowing what these are can help you avoid making similar mistakes.. Unhealthy Coping: What To Avoid Unhealthy diets One common form of unhealthy coping is through eating. More specifically, it's what people tend to eat, and how much they eat. Many people like to lean on "comfort food" during times of stress. After all, eating food we like does make us feel happier. The issue is that most people tend to have unhealthy comfort foods, like candy or ice cream. Constantly eating foods like these can lead to unwanted weight gain and potential health issues. Those side-effects can end up making you feel worse than you did before. That's why it's important to be mindful of your intake. [...]

By | January 18th, 2020|

Emotional Divorce: Making Decisions

After your divorce, you might be thinking that you can begin to move on with the next stage of your life. However, your emotions still might be conflicted, especially in regards to your ex. You might be struggling with the emotional divorce: the process of separating yourself emotionally from your spouse. This can be a hard task to do, but not impossible. To help, here are some tips for when it comes to understanding emotional divorce. Emotional Divorce: Cutting Spousal Ties Understand Your Circumstances Understanding the circumstances of your divorce is a key part of your emotional divorce. For example, if you and your ex have any children, you'll have to remain in contact and still see each other. This can make it harder to get rid of those emotions. If you understand these circumstances for what they are, however, then it can become an easier process. You and your ex are both individuals now, and your interactions will have to [...]

By | January 14th, 2020|

Exercising Regularly: Healthy Coping Mechanisms

Divorce can bring about a lot of new challenges and stressors. Therefore, many people turn to a vice, such as food, drinks, or alcohol to cope. However, one of the best moves you can make is to take up healthy coping methods, such as exercising regularly. You want to manage your stress without creating any other issues, such as alcoholism. So, we're here to help you make sense of why exercising regularly is your key to coping with divorce. Exercising Regularly: Divorce and Coping The benefits There are plenty of benefits to exercising regularly. For starters, releasing endorphins is a great way to manage stress and negative emotions. These feelings of hurt, anger, confusion, or sadness are something you are likely to come across naturally during a divorce. Therefore, finding ways to While we absolutely want to emphasize the mental impact of exercising regularly, the real star of the show is the way it affects your health overall. There is a big [...]

By | December 21st, 2019|

Rebound Relationships

Some people struggle with dating again after their divorce. While some divorcees struggle getting back out there, others end up dating a bit too quickly. Sometimes, they may even end up in rebound relationships. While they may seem harmless at first, they can have some negative results... Rebound Relationships: Dating Too Soon? Rebounding, defined Rebound relationships are what happens when you enter a new relationship shortly after your last one. This can include not just a marriage, but any kind of dating too. Now, there isn't a "definitive" time frame for rebounds. However, any relationship formed quickly after can fall into this category. There's a number of reasons as to why someone might end up in a "rebound". Many times, they might feel lonely, and use this new fling to try and get rid of those feelings. Or, they might hope a new relationship will make them forget about their old one. The issue with rebounds The thing about rebound relationships is [...]

By | December 18th, 2019|

Substance Abuse During Divorce

If there's one thing you want to stay away from while divorcing, it's drugs and alcohol. Substance abuse during divorce can have a really negative impact on your experience with healing. In fact, there's a few specific areas where it's negatives really show up... Substance Abuse During Divorce: Physical Impact of Divorce Hurts your health Substance abuse during divorce can really impact your health. It's not uncommon for people to feel very stressed during a divorce. The issue is that this stress can sometimes cause them to do things they otherwise would avoid. One of these things could be going from occasional drug and alcohol use and into abuse. The dangers of alcohol abuse are very well-known, and can get worse the more you drink. The same goes for illicit drugs, as they too can have unintended side-effects. Plus, things can get much worse if you decide to mix drugs with alcohol, potentially leading to a very dangerous cocktail. Impacts future [...]

By | December 15th, 2019|

Child Anxiety: Easing Minds

Divorce can sometimes result in positive changes for your kids. However, it can also bring about some more negative feelings. Child anxiety is perhaps one of the most common. However, there are some ways you can help them out... Child Anxiety: Helping Them Out Talk to them One good way to handle child anxiety is by encouraging them to talk to you. Anxiety can only get worse when someone doesn't have an outlet for it. Letting those anxious thoughts run around in their head will just worsen their anxiety. Plus, they might be anxious about even opening up about how they feel. Therefore, it's good to take the initiative and reach out to them. Take some time to talk to them, and let them know you're there to listen. Sometimes, parents won't have all the answers right away. But, your kids just need to know someone is there to still listen and help them after the divorce. Encourage positive thinking Child anxiety might [...]

By | December 11th, 2019|

Blended Family Travel: New Traditions

The holidays usually involve a lot of travel. While it can be tricky to travel with family, it can be even harder to travel with a new, blended family. However, doing blended family travel doesn't have to be complicated. There's a few things in particular which can help make things easier for everyone... Blended Family Travel: Communication & Planning Communicate properly Good communication is important for blended family travel. It's important that everyone is on the same page. Making plans on a whim and not letting everyone know is a surefire way to create conflict. As a result, you and your partner need to make sure that all of your kids understand what the plans are.  Try to have you and your partner come up with the basic plan at first. This can be stuff like figuring out when you'll leave, and how you'll get to your destination. Then, bring it up to your kids and get their input. That way, you can [...]

By | December 7th, 2019|